However, women who work as writers, Zara Zetirra Ramadi Zainuddin (42), dare to make big decisions in his life. He ventured to "abandon" her children attend school in Canada, after his divorce. Compromise with the former husband, and build self-sufficiency for the whole family into his power.
compromise
Zara regain custody of children after divorce. However, with education and financial considerations, Zara willing to part with his two children, Eva Ramadi Zsemba Alaya (16) and Zsolt George Zsemba Zainuddin (10), who now lives with her ex-husband in Canada. While Zara making a living in Jakarta.
"Those schools in Canada, and I know there is better education for them. So I finally chose 'to leave' em there," said Zara told Compass Female some time ago through a short message.
A good relationship with former husband, injecting confidence for Zara to take a decision that is not easy for a mother. "Although already divorced, we remained good relationship so that we could compromise on education of children together. However, the children still be my responsibility for custody of fell into my hands. So I still continue to pay all their needs, share with ex-husband, "he said.
Independent
Zara's decision to return to Jakarta, and live far away with the child, based on a number of considerations, including to become independent women, including from the financial side. "I felt there could not do anything. When I was married, my full-time mom. After the divorce, I prefer to be able to express themselves to return to work in Jakarta," he admits.
However, separation from children is not easy, especially after living it. Zara had thought to bring along the kids live with him in Jakarta. "I had a strong inner conflict between leaving the children in Canada, or bring them engage to Jakarta. However, I think it would be better for them to stay there. And I believe that they can and can afford. Moreover, there also exist his father, "he added.
The importance of religious knowledge
Zara confidence over his decision was also based on the full confidence of his children. He equips his children by instilling religious knowledge from an early age, and independent personality.
"Since childhood I was introduced to their religion and independence. I always bring them up to serve themselves can not depend on anyone else. Age three years, they can already use microwave alone you know," he said proudly.
Religious knowledge is important for Zara. According to him, the children need to be introduced to a variety of good and bad deeds through religious education. "Religious education was as a bulwark in themselves so that they too can take care of themselves," he added.
Continue to feel close
At three months of parting with the child, feeling uncertain start attacking. To overcome this, the mother of two children back to realize the goal live far away. This decision was made solely to return to work and earn a living for the happiness of their children would. He also underwent the consequences of major decisions are taken, one of whom visited her children in Canada, two times a year.
"At first I commute Canada-Jakarta, three times a year. However, over time I feel this way is not quite effective because it requires no expensive costs. Finally, now minus two times so let all flavors kangennya stacked. As for me more have good quality time with children rather than quantity, "he said.
Technology provides a solution to keep taping this mother-child relationship. Weekends are time to Zara to establish communication with their children via Skype or other social networks, telephone connections, as well as facilities Blackberry Messenger. Zara every weekend activities are not to be inviolable.
"I've got a special phone to chat with them, and the cell phone is always on 24 hours. Because there are differences in time, so I have to standby at all times when they need and want to contact me anytime," beber women who make the child as its main priority.
Although the distance apart, Zara should feel closer to her children. Inner relationship of mother and child would not be replaced with anything. It is precisely this relationship is increasingly built up despite the distance apart. Habit to always tell what adds to the mother-child closeness.
"They used to talk and ask about anything, including the vent and tell their complaints to me. So, yes in fact the same as its communication with other mothers, only they are abroad," said Zara is trying to see the positive side of the separation time and place with this child. "I feel, in this way, my children can grow up to be an independent person and not spoiled," he said.
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